You must be extremely careful in who you choose to have as a partner. We all want somebody to care for us, protect us, and love us, but we have to be cautious about who we pick because if we make a mistake, the results can be deadly. Love is a wonderful thing, but it can also be dangerous. One poor woman in Colorado Springs found this out the hard way. This past Mother’s Day, a woman from Colorado Springs was at a birthday party and at 12:18am, her angry ex-boyfriend came in with a gun and shot her and five others to death. After he killed them, he shot and killed himself. Fortunately, no children were harmed, but all the kids who attended that party witnessed six murders and a suicide.
Extreme acts of violence like this are not rare and this pattern has shown to repeat itself over and over again. If you choose the wrong person to date, you are not only putting yourself at risk, but you are putting others at risk as well. The reason why men like this commit these types of crimes is because they want love, compassion, and tenderness, but don’t know how to get it. Most of them have been raised by families who never taught them how to be a caring boyfriend, so later in life when they have disagreements with their girlfriend, the only way they know how to solve their problems is to be verbally and physically violent. They don’t know how to deal with girls in any other way, so when something goes wrong, they treat their girlfriend badly until she finally says it’s enough and they break up, similarly to what happened with that woman in Colorado Springs. She broke up with her boyfriend, told him she didn’t want him anymore, and refused to invite him to the party. Look what happened there - he crashed the party, killed her and five other people, and then committed suicide. All the while, there were there children who saw the entire thing happen, something that must be extremely traumatizing. The lesson here is that we have to be very careful about who we choose to date. Here are some questions you might ask yourself before getting into a relationship with a man: Does he have a temper? Does he get angry easily? Does he believe violence is power? Does he get into a lot of confrontations with people? If the answer to any of these is ‘yes,’ that might be a warning sign that you are in a dangerous situation. This person could have the potential to hurt you and your loved ones. Additionally, there’s a higher chance of this happening if you come from a similar kind of violent background. Oftentimes, women who are attracted to violent men come from families where they were not respected or treated well. They probably came from a family where men held the power and used that power to ruthlessly control women. If you are a woman who came from that kind of background, you are at an increased risk of getting yourself into a bad situation with a man because you may not have the skills needed to make a loving, caring relationship work. And if neither of you have those skills, you’re likely to wind up in dangerous and toxic situations.
So what can you do to keep yourself safe and prevent this from happening? The obvious answer is to get out of the relationship as soon as possible. However, doing this has its dangers, too. The woman from Colorado Springs tried to get out of her relationship and told her boyfriend that she didn’t want anything to do with him anymore. Unfortunately, his response to that was to show up uninvited to a party and shoot her dead. Deep down, violent people like this know they don’t have a future. They may not know why this is and they may not understand what’s holding them back, but deep down, they have a sense that life is going nowhere for them. Most of the time they don’t know how to overcome this, so when something major happens like their girlfriend breaking up with them, they grow even angrier and think there’s nothing left to do other than to die fighting by going out and shooting the ones who hurt them.
If you are a woman in a potentially dangerous situation, another tactic you can do is to try to find some type of program that can mentor your violent boyfriend so they can teach him how to become a more even-tempered person. You can also try to get a restraining order, but that won’t offer you too much protection against somebody who is determined to get back at you. Overall, you always need to be on the lookout. If you find yourself falling for a man and you’re weary of him, ask around and get some advice. Talk to people who know him and ask them what he’s like. If they tell you he gets into a lot of fights and gets angry easily, you might want to stay away from him. If you’re already involved with him, try and seek help.
Please be careful before getting into a relationship. Love can be great, wonderful, and beautiful, but it can also be deadly.